A Good Thing Comes When You Least Expect It

Envy alert! ūüėÄ
Ya, I remind you. You might envy me for my luck.

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These days were interesting for me. I got three things that I really didn’t expect to happen.

First, I finally have a credit card. Credit card? Are you kidding? That is so two-thousand-and-late! Ya… ya… believe it or not, this is my very first credit card. I have been applying for a credit card since years ago and always been rejected by several banks. Rejection hurts :). But I do understand. Those banks must know at that time I was not a huge fan of shopping. And I didn’t have much money either. Now, I shop a lot (especially dresses and accesories).¬†But although my account balance is (still) not abundant, this bank gives me quite high limit. Strangely, I am happy.

Second, it is about my master thesis.¬†I finally got my mark. Nggak tanggung-tanggung, it is not a seven, or an eight. It is a nine. Crazy, huh? It “causes” me to graduate with distinction or you might know it as¬†cum laude :-).¬†I feel blessed. I feel uplifted. Last week I was¬†at the bottom of my confidence. Now I am up again. I feel good.

She is not me. I am just trying to give you some idea of what I do on my back ūüôā

Ah! One more interesting thing: I can do backstroke style now (not really the style with the right technique sih…). After three¬†times practicing (in three days, several minutes each),¬†I am finally able to float on my back. One comment: it is so easy! I have all the theories in advance.¬†Be brave, lift your waist, move your legs, bla bla bla. I practiced. I failed several times. But at the third attempt, a friend gave me one useful tips: let your ears underwater. And voila! I did it!

God is such a Joker

Back to the title: a good thing comes when you least expect it. I do believe it now. Those three things I mentioned above are definitely off my expectation. I mean… of course I expect to graduate soon. But a “nine” for my thesis project is beyond expectation. And credit card? I just have a job for two months! I don’t expect to be approved now. And floating on my back? This soon? I am thrilled! :-).

He is the King of Twist. What I mean by He is God. Just so you know, I’ve been praying for totally different things like:

“God, please let me graduate soon. I am sick of this thesis.” or
“God, I don’t really care about the mark.¬†Seven is enough. Eight is blessing.” or
“God, I don’t care about credit card. As long as I have friends who can lend me theirs.” or
“God,¬†saya pingin bisa gaya punggung dalam satu atau dua bulan ini.”
“God, dekatkan saya dengan jodoh saya. Saya mohon dengan sangat, mudahkan jalan kami…” (hehehe)

He is indeed a Joker. The last prayer I have is the most habitual prayer of mine. Guess what? He has not granted me that. He keeps twisting my prayers. I ask this, He gives me that. And so on and so forth. Should I start not expecting it?

 

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Cara Berdoa yang Baik

Sebelumnya saya bingung mencari kata sifat yang pas untuk judul postingan ini. Apakah itu baik atau benar atau mujarab atau ala Amalia atau yang disukai Tuhan atau lainnya? Tapi akhirnya saya memilih baik, meski saya juga nggak menjamin apakah ini adalah cara yang benar, mujarab, dan disukai Tuhan.

Pertama, kenapa berdoa?

Sebab kita bukan pemilik semua kekuatan di dunia. Ada banyak hal di luar kendali kita (dan di luar kendali manusia lainnya) sehingga kita diberi sebuah alat spiritual untuk meminta pada Dia Yang Maha Kuasa (Dan-Namanya-Boleh-Disebut, hehehe). Dengan berbekal definisi sederhana bahwa doa adalah permintaan kepada Tuhan, saya punya tips berdoa yang dalam statistik pengalaman saya cukup berhasil.

1. Have faith

Ya, even God want you to believe in Him when you ask Him for something. Kalau kita minta pada Tuhan, tapi kita nggak percaya Tuhan bisa mengabulkan permintaan kita,  buat apa? Masalah apa nanti Tuhan mau memberi sesuai yang kita minta itu urusan lain. Sebab itu sudah  di luar kontrol kita. Tuhan punya hak prerogatif dalam menjawab doa-doa.

2. Be specific

Hayo¬†ngaku! Kita¬†pasti¬†masih¬†sering¬†atau¬†paling¬†nggak… pernah berdoa dengan gaya seperti ini: “saya ingin¬†yang terbaik menurut Tuhan…”¬†atau “kalau¬†menurut¬†Tuhan¬†A lebih¬†baik¬†daripada¬†B, maka¬†beri¬†saya A. Kalau¬†tidak, ya sudah¬†B tidak¬†apa-apa…” atau doa paling klise yang pernah ada: “Tuhan, saya hanya¬†ingin¬†bahagia…”

Bilang dong apa yang bikin kamu bahagia!

Kalau pernah nonton film Bruce Almighty, kalian pasti punya gambaran betapa banyak Tuhan menerima permintaan tiap harinya. Kalau kita malas menyebut keinginan spesifik, siap-siap saja doa kita tersingkirkan sejenak untuk doa-doa lain yang lebih spesifik. Logika sederhana saja.

Biar kamu punya gambaran, ini contoh doa-doa spesifik saya yang terkabul dan jawabannya tepat sesuai yang saya ucapkan.

“Tuhan, saya ingin¬†bisa ranking 1.”
“Tuhan, saya ingin¬†kuliah di ITS.”
“Tuhan, saya ingin¬†bisa¬†mengunjungi¬†Malaysia, Jepang, dan Belanda.”
“Tuhan, saya ingin¬†bekerja di NGO.”
“Tuhan, saya ingin¬†melihat¬†novel saya terpajang¬†di rak¬†toko-toko¬†buku¬†Gramedia.” (terkabul, novel saya nggak laku, makanya nangkring lama di rak¬†toko¬†buku, hehehe)

3. Ikhlas

Saya susah mencari padanan kata dalam bahasa Inggrisnya. Perhaps: be sincere. Yes, setelah meminta pada Tuhan dengan sungguh-sungguh, ya sudah. Kita serahkan pada Tuhan bagaimana jawabannya. Kalau dikabulkan ya syukur, kalau nggak ya nggak menyerah untuk terus berusaha dan berdoa.

A prayer is not magic. It is a combination of a strong will, effort, and sincerity.

PS. Sometimes a prayer works like a miracle.